How to draw your own conclusions, when you’re not personally involved in conflict

February 6, 2012 — Leave a comment

There are always 2 sides to every story.

Even those involved in any given incident operate from their own perceptions and foregone conclusions. Without face-to-face discussions, often neither side has real and total truth in a matter. To find truth, even when talking face-to-face, one has to be open and honest with how they really feel. Too often, passive aggressive people, uncomfortable with conflict, will bow out and not say what they really feel or think.

Therefore, nothing is really resolved.

We have all been drawn to the side of our friends in one of these conflicts.

When asked about my opinion in a recent matter, all I could conclude was I really only knew one side of the story. I don’t know what the other side is thinking or the reasoning behind their actions. At best, I can only partly believe what I’m hearing.

This may sound like a copout; but it’s scriptural.

I Corinthians 11:18 – For first of all, when ye come together in the church, I hear that there be divisions among you; and I partly believe it.

Paul addressed the Corinthian church concerning reports he had heard. He refused to give himself fully to a second-hand report. He only partly believed it.

This is wise.

Here are a couple good equations to follow, when you’re the third wheel, in a two-wheel collision.

  • Report + Other party’s reputation = Only partly believe it.
  • Hear in person + Other party’s side of the story = Finally draw your own conclusion.